We’ve asked ourselves that question so may time.  Maybe it’s us….meaning me?  Or you?  If each one of us showed a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative things towards people we have relationships with we’d all be happier right?  Is it too hard for us to do 5 positive things to 1 negative thing with the people we care about?  Let’s at least start with a 2:1 ratio! HAHAHA